Why does gay parenting have to be so much of a hassle?
I'm a 22 year old gay African American that has thought about and wanted a child for a while now.However, unlike many other gay men I know I didn't take the route of "experimenting" with females to the point that we had kids.And at this point I can't bring a kids into the world and tell them that their father slept with their mother just to have them and "then decided" that I wasn't really into her.Just doesn't seem right to me.
I have a loving boyfriend who has a son with his ex wife.I care for his son dearly but often find myself placed on the back burner when it comes to decision making and the raising of his son.Multiple times I catch myself having to take a step back, take a breath, and allow him to do what he feels is best for his child.It really sucks.:-(
I would love to have a child of my own.But its much more difficult to find someone willing to carry your child as a gay man.It's not like there's too many people that'll just be willing to carry your child as there are plenty of guys that's just be willing to have sex with a woman (or so it seems).And God knows I've tried plenty of times to get pregnant but to no avail (haha).I'm gonna need him/her to redesign my anatomy or something.I'd love to be able to have a child with a surrogate and keep in touch just in case the child wants to know their maternal background.I'd like to have a child without having to lie to a woman about who I am just to get what I want.I'd like to not have to treat having a child like a shopping trip in Beverly hills, but I do understand that people want to be compensated for their time and troubles.*sigh*
Why does gay parenting have to be so much of a hassle?
