The initial involvement in finding a Surrogate Mother is especially significant, as the choice you make will have a long lasting influence on you as an individual or couple.
Whether you are using your own Surrogate Mother or searching for one there are a few questions to ask yourself.
Interviewing and/or reviewing the profile of a potential Surrogate Mother is key. The main factors that should regulate your choice in whether a specific woman is in fact “the one”: overall health, genetics, emotional stability, and support system all hold a firm posture on the growth and security of your child.
Visiting these concerns early in the interview progression will give you valuable insight and vision for the future and soon to be family.
Is the Surrogate comfortable with a gay man or gay male couple?
It is extremely imperative for you and/or your partner to be upfront and honest. The prominence of a good relationship between you the Surrogate is communication. Is she comfortable with the fact that you – and your partner are in a committed relationship and moreover that you are gay.
If she is not, your relationship will become stressed, and the baby could be adversely affected. By no means should you attempt to recruit a surrogate who does not accept you as you are.
Does the Surrogate have a strong support system?
How will the Surrogates family and friends handle the possibility of her being a Surrogate for a gay individual or couple?
This can have significant demeanor as to how she will handle it herself. In any case, they will be who she trusts and confides in. If she doesn’t have the support of her own family, how will she support you?
Choosing a Surrogate Mother can be a challenge. Do not hurry through the process.
Take your time and gather all the information you need, consider what factors have the most bearing on your situation, and make a decision that will satisfy every desire you hold in building a family.