Our Journey

My husband and I are searching for a gestational surrogate/carrier.This is how we have gotten to this point in our journey to parenthood :)

My husband and I were married in *** and it was a beautiful wedding ceremony and reception.It was in his hometown, and it made me happy that some of my family and close friends could fly across the country to support me and share with us on our special day.I was so excited to marry him, become his wife, and to start having children.

We found out we were pregnant in *** but several days later miscarried.I went to the doctor where they confirmed I had/was miscarrying and that I was also hypothyroid.The doctor stated that was more than likely the reason behind the pregnancy loss, and I should have no trouble in the future once I got my levels stabilized.

My husband was deployed several months later, and after he returned home from duty, we let our lives settle and started trying again.I got pregnant again in *** but a week after I found out bleeding started.I went to the doctor and another miscarriage was confirmed.After that, we sought help from a fertility clinic.

After all the testing that could have been done to both my husband and I, they found that there were no issues, and therefore I fell into the 'unexplained' category.We did IUI in *** and it was successful.Yet, that as well resulted in another miscarriage.They thought that because of all my early losses, there had to be something wrong with the babies.

In *** we had our egg retrieval, they did ICSI with them, had them develop into 5-day blastocysts and sent them to be genetically/chromosomally tested.All of them came back normal, and were of very good quality.So, we pushed forward and did our first IVF transfer, which resulted in pregnancy.However, the day of my 6-week ultrasound, I miscarried.

I took several months off, and then started with the meds to prepare my body for IVF again, and this time they added a new drug that helps a lot of women who are in my same situation.Just like the other times, the transfer was successful and I was pregnant.I made it to my 6-week ultrasound and saw the gestational sac, yolk sac, and baby.It was magical and I was over the moon.

I went to see a new OB, a specialist so they could watch me better than my regular OB would, and had a 7-week ultrasound.Right off the bat, I knew or could tell that something was wrong.After my appointment was over, and I was waiting for them to give me some paperwork, I went to the bathroom and was miscarrying again.I was devastated because I thought this would actually work, it would be the baby that made it, but I was wrong.It left me heartbroken.

I called my fertility clinic right away and told them that I could not do this anymore.I had suffered too many losses, and my husband and I cannot go through another one.We know its not the embryos, they all are of excellent quality and no abnormalities, so it has to be me.They understood, and agreed with me that the next step in our journey is surrogacy.

So, here we are looking and learning about these amazing women who have had successful pregnancies and (luckily thank goodness) have never had to endure a loss.We hope, soon, that someone will find us (or we find them) and they enter this journey along with us, and graciously give us what we've desired for all these years - a baby, and finally starting our family.:)

Thank you all for taking the time to read this, it is pretty lengthy (haha), but I hope it helped into understanding the full story in detail, and what all my husband and I (and really our whole family) has gone through.