Intended Parent from Menlo, Georgia, USA.
Explain your reasons for wanting a surrogate/donor:
In all truthfulness, I have never had a desire to be a dad. Recently, however, something inexplicable but very profound has "clicked" in me. I want to be a dad. I want to see another generation carry my name forward. Another big thing is that I come from a broken family. My dad has one biological grandson he's never met and two step-grandsons that are minimally involved in his life. My dad has been the one constant I've had in my life, and I would love to be able to give him a grandchild that he can love, spoil, and teach me how to parent. To a large extent, I feel like I owe that to him for all that he has done for me throughout my life.
How would you best describe yourself(s):
I am a single gay male. I am truly a very independent and solitary person. I keep a small "circle" and prefer having strong connections with a few people as opposed to weak connections with a large group of people. The people in my life are very important to me, and I value the role each plays in my life immensely. I am very introverted, very shy, and reserved. In social situations I am almost always the "wall flower" waiting on someone to approach me and strike up a conversation. As I get to know you or grow comfortable in the social situation, I can be quite an enigmatic individual. I love to laugh and make memories with those I am with. At times I can be quite goofy, but overall I am a fairly serious/conservative person. To some extent, I consider myself to be an empath on some level. I usually pick up on others' feelings pretty easily. Even with subtle changes. I am also a very kind hearted person who wants to truly see everyone succeed. Family is very important for me, especially since I have a very broken one of my own. I have siblings but am not close with any of them; I only have one "full blooded" sibling, and sadly she was killed in 2017. In addition to family, I have a fur baby named Echo. He is a Siberian Husky/German Shepherd mix. My interests are somewhat bland. I have a deep passion for music. I was a "chorus nerd" and "band nerd" in high school. I am also intensely interested in psychology! I love to consider things and why those things are what they are. I enjoy talking to people and being a sounding board for them to vent. I am also quite intrigued with sociology because we develop mannerisms from the influence of a wide range of people within our lives and don't even really realize it. Finally (I think), I have an Associate of Applied Science in Business Administration, emphasis in Management Information Systems. I also have a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration, emphasis Industrial-Organizational Psychology. I have completed right at half of my MBA with the emphasis shifting back and forth between Human Resources and Management.
Use this space to communicate a letter to potential Surrogates/Donors:
Dear Potential Mom: First, I want to express how deeply appreciative I am of your willingness to help me start my own little family. I can't fathom the responsibility you're undertaking and all that goes along with it. For me, it means a chance to bring my own biological child into this world. While I have absolutely no idea what the road ahead holds, I would like to express my hopes for you. First and foremost, it is my hope that you will want to have a peripheral relationship with your child. I know for certain that I want him or her to know who their mom is and the role she played in giving me this miracle. Not only that, but I feel it is important for my child to understand that he or she isn't an oddity for having only one parent, and maybe at some point down the road having two dads. I want my child to understand they are normal, with a mom that has some part in his or her life. My ideal surrogate mother would be someone who has had at least one successful pregnancy and is between 25 and 40ish. I would hope for a mother who has a strong family connection. I also would prefer a mother who is Christian and possesses strong values and ethics. Obviously, I would expect for you to be drug and alcohol free. As we navigate this journey, I would ask you to be open-minded and patient with me. In the beginning I would probably want to be involved with each and every check up, ultrasound, and so forth. I realize this is a very liquid period and that things can and will change with time. As my own nervousness wears off, I will take a "backseat" position and only ask to be included in major appointments and check ins. After birth, I have no desire to cut ties with you; I truly hope you will feel the same. I would love to have you/your family included in birthdays and holidays, and I would be open to regular visits so that our son or daughter can develop a relationship with you and any potential brothers and sisters. I want to give my child the things I was unable to have myself. To close, I anxiously await meeting the ANGEL who will help me start my own family. Words simply can't express how I feel and how grateful I am to you, but also to God for bringing you into my life!