My reasons are very simple. I am turning 45 this year and the chances of finding a woman in ‘traditional settings’ are too small and it is a process that takes too long. I realize I have no more time to waste. The dream of children started to come into effect after I turned 40. I always considered myself gay but I have never been able to find a partner in that space. I don’t have that need anymore. It is all about one or two kids now (or three) and seeing them grow up and giving them a great education comparable to the wonderful and great upbringing that I have been able to experience.
I am a Caucasian almost 45-year old Flemish man born and raised in Belgium. I have lived in Los Angeles (US) and in Barcelona (Spain) but I am for good in Belgium now. I am ‘gay’ even though I do not wish to put myself in that ‘corner’ or ‘spot’. I come from a very warm and catholic upbringing in the countryside in Flanders (Belgium). I went to catholic college (math major) and then to university where I studied chemistry. I went to university in Belgium and then in the US. I have a passion for history and culture. I love our European heritage and I often visit old places and musea. I look good, fresh and young for my age. I am a dark blonde and I regularly go to the gym. I am athletic. I have always been quite demanding for myself. I did not have a wish for children but that dramatically changed as I was passing 40. There are several reasons for this: I started a teacher’s education in evening school which brought me back in contact with adolescents and brought back many memories of my childhood time; my nephews and nieces were having children; and further there were some life changing elements that made this wish grow stronger and stronger to the point where it is becoming an obsession. I finally feel I have the financial independence to raise a child as a single parent (along with my family). The ‘perfect job’ finally came along at the point where I was almost going to change careers to being a high school teacher. My current job (pharma/biotech clinical studies) allows me to work from home (home office) and comes with a lot of flexibility and this creates a perfect situation for myself to take care of children and to be there for them when they need me, to take them to school or to pick them up from school. Aside from a few short business trips in neighboring countries, I am always home.
Ideally I wish to find a surrogate mother who would be living close to me and who would express the wish of staying in contact with the child as well. But in the end, I’d be very happy if I could have a baby regardless of any of the points just mentioned. The child will be raised in the traditional settings of Flanders, the Flemish speaking part of Belgium. To the surrogate mom I can say that I am financially stable on my own and that the child will have everything it needs, including warm contact with all of the members of my family.