Nancy, American Intended Parent in Fort Collins, Colorado, USA

Explain your reasons for wanting a surrogate/donor:

I have had 7 miscarriages over the past 3 years and, despite working with three doctors in two different states, I can get no diagnosis or treatment for my miscarriages. It has been emotionally and physically devastating (to the seventh power -- and it really is an exponential pain to have so many losses.) Kyle and I decided to look for a surrogate who is willing to share her ability to have children so we can be parents. I'm looking for a surrogate who is willing to do traditional surrogacy.

How would you best describe yourself(s):

Kyle and I love lots of things: each other, our families, our two (spoiled) cats, traveling, doing projects around the house, cooking, reading. Kyle is a professional IT guy, a hobby photographer, and an amazing husband (I'm biased, of course ;-) I am faculty at a university (teaching English) and love literature and language. My hobbies are arts and crafts -- acrylic painting, scrapbooking, sewing (although I'm very new to that hobby!) -- and running (I do a few races each year and a half-marathon every few years).

Use this space to communicate a letter to potential Surrogates/Donors:

Imagine the worst thing that has ever happened to you happening seven times, and that can give you a sense of how difficult our miscarriages have been. Each time we conceived easily but lost our baby around 7 weeks. We’d have an ultrasound at 6 weeks that showed a heartbeat, and a week later our baby’s heart had stopped beating. That’s all we know; we have no explanation. I’ve had surgery, taken drugs, taken supplements, given myself shots, we’ve done genetic tests and scans and images, we’ve hoped and prayed and meditated. A year ago a family member offered to be our surrogate and we’d been working with her for a year figuring out timing (not while they were moving, not while she’s in a wedding, etc.) and she just recently changed her mind. Another devastating blow to our hopes to be parents. We have so much to give a child. First, and most importantly, we have love to give. We have worked so hard for a baby; when we finally get one that baby will never, ever doubt how much they’re loved and cherished and wanted. We can also give our baby security. We both are educated, professional people with stable careers. We own our own home (or, maybe it’s better to say our cats own it and let us stay here and pay the bills for them…;-) My in-laws live in town, so our baby will have one set of grandparents nearby (and the other grandparents and a whole host of aunts, uncles, and cousins within driving distance or a short plane flight away). Kyle and I are fun and funny – something I’m proud to say we’ve maintained despite loss after loss after loss after loss after loss after loss after loss. We’re ready to go from being Nancy and Kyle to being Mom and Dad. And we’re looking for a generous woman to give us the most important and best thing in life that we can’t get ourselves.