I was diagnosed with endometriosis at 24, and had to have both her fallopian tubes and an ovary surgically removed.We did 6 rounds of IVF before conceiving our son, who died 30 hours after he was born.As a result of several uterine surgeries and a C-Section, our OB/GYN thinks a gestational carrier would be a prudent option.
We are a bi-racial couple (black and white), who been married since October *** and own our home in the suburbs of Midlothian in Virginia.We enjoy playing tennis, love to travel, and spend time with our dogs.We have a son, who passed away in early ***
Dear gestation carrier, It has been said that having children is like watching your heart walk around outside your body.For us, this is true in so many ways.Our journey to being parents has been an out of body experience both physically and emotionally.For us, the reality has been that our children have been conceived outside of us, in labs in Virginia and New Jersey.We did 5 cycles of IVF with our eggs and sperm without getting pregnant.At that point, we reached further outside ourselves and decided to use donor eggs for our sixth IVF cycle. With our last embryo using donor eggs, we finally got pregnant with our son.Our pregnancy was difficult and in the moments between frequent doctor appointments, it was blissful to experience our son growing.He was such a funny little boy and it was hard to believe he was sick.He was diagnosed with a congenital heart defect in our anatomy scan.We later found out that he had an un-inherited genetic mutation that was likely pathogenic.The geneticist equates this to random chance. Our son was born at *** weeks on February 5, *** weighed 5 lbs 15 oz and measured *** inches.After several procedure on his lungs, he died peacefully in our arms, on February 6, *** son is our greatest gift and his death our sadness moment.In losing our son, a part of our heart walks around in heaven.We are parents in the most tragically beautiful way to a most wonderful son. It may seem that we talk about our son a lot - we are so proud of him and continue to parent him the only way we can.We are just parents. You may wonder whether we are “ready” for more children - as we mourn our son’s death and honor his memory, the longing for more children is still very strong in us.As parents, we know that readiness is not a reality – we just know that we have the willingness to bend and flex as our children’s needs and whims require. It has also been said that it takes take a village to raise a child.We know too that sometimes it takes a village to conceive and bring a child into the world.We also know that the most important thing about a family are the intangibles that are deeper and stronger than the links of DNA and that transcend the womb.We know that any more children we have will be conceived separate from us and carried by someone else.We want our future children to know how they came to us, and who helped us. Would you and your family be part of our village? As a potential gestational carrier, you: - Live in VA, DC, MD or NC - Willing to travel to NJ for embryo transfer - Have health insurance (or can easily obtain it) - Enjoy being pregnant, have easy pregnancies and ideally be done having their family - Have given birth ideally to no more than five children, and had no more than two c-sections - No history of placental issues, cerclage, stillborn or late term loss, preterm birth, severe preeclampsia or gestational hypertension, insulin dependent gestation diabetes - Be primarily motivated to help someone become a parent and secondarily for any funding - Not be in active military service or any job that would not be conducive to being pregnant (e.g., sky dive instructor, firefighter) - Have a note from their ob-gyn clearing them to get pregnant - Be in a stable relationship with a supportive spouse or partner or no relationship at all - Be willing to comply with all of the other restrictions of being a carrier. With gratitude, Jamala and Nate