I (Natalie) cannot carry a child due to a medical condition.
We are intended parents from Vancouver, BC looking for a surrogate to help us fulfil our dream of starting a family. We would ideally love to find someone local or at least close by so that we can get to know each other and form a relationship before the surrogacy begins. We want our surrogate and her family to be comfortable with us and the journey.
Dear surrogate, My partner and I are from North Vancouver and have been together for two amazing years. We met online although we always joked that it was fate, given our line of work. He (Justin) works as an embryologist at a fertility clinic and I (Natalie) worked as a perinatal nurse at one of the local hospitals. Everyone within our family and our friends found it ironic that Justin “made” the babies that I then helped to bring into the world many months later. Early in 2013, before I met Justin, I was diagnosed with a rare endocrine disorder that affects my cortisol levels. I had neurosurgery in September of that year but the surgery was unsuccessful and I had to start taking medication to control my cortisol. Although at the time I was single, I was already warned that pregnancy would not be an option for me. My doctor explained that the medication I was taking made it impossible for a baby to develop normally inside me and would no doubt lead to fetal anomalies. Conversely, if I stopped taking the medication, my cortisol would be out of control and any pregnancy would be extremely high risk for complications and likely lead to pre-eclampsia and possibly HELLP syndrome. As a person who worked in the field, I was completely aware of how dangerous all of these risks were and came to accept that I had to let go of my dream to have my own, biological child. After my diagnosis, I felt like damaged goods in the dating world. What man, I asked myself, would willingly agree to commit the rest of their life with a woman who couldn’t produce any children? This thought process led to self-consciousness and a strong dislike for the whole dating process. Then came Justin… As an embryologist and someone who worked in fertility, he had a completely different perspective on what is and isn’t possible when it comes to pregnancy. When I told him about my medical condition, quite early into our relationship as I felt I owed him a full glimpse into my childless future, he was not bothered at all. Rather, he opened my eyes to surrogacy and the scientific advances that have been made in the field of fertility. Of course I knew of surrogacy as an option, but it wasn’t until I met him that he made me believe that this could be an option for me, for us. Amidst all of the craziness that has ensued during this pandemic, Justin and I got extremely close and grew as a couple. As healthcare workers, the pandemic solidified our relationship and taught us the importance of appreciating what you have. We were engaged last summer and are getting married in August. Though our wedding format remains unclear due to all of the restrictions, we have both agreed that we want to be married and will elope if that is all we are allowed come the day of our wedding. Knowing that surrogacy is our path to parenthood, we started looking into it as soon as we got engaged. We realized that this has the potential to be a long journey, with many twists and turns, so we wanted to at least have the first part taken care of. Thanks to the wonderful staff at our fertility clinic, we were able to produce nine embryos this March and we are now looking for an amazing surrogate to help us on this journey. It is amazing to know that groups like this exist to help support and encourage indented parents such as myself and my partner to not give up on our dream of parenthood. If you have gotten to the end of this post, thank you for taking the time to read about our story. There is so much more I can write, but given how long this post is already, I am happy to answer any questions through a message instead. Thank you for considering being our surrogate! -Natalie and Justin