I have been thinking about surrogacy since my early twenties when my aunt called me up to see if I'd be willing to be a TS or GS or even just an egg donor for her. I was not comfortable being (and now I know it is almost impossible to be) a surrogate before having my own children. I thought that might happen sooner rather than later but it wasn’t meant to be. However I finally (re)met the right man when I was 32 (we first met and were friends in our early twenties). At the age of 34, I delivered our son (41 weeks/ 8.5lbs) and at age 37, I delivered our daughter (40 weeks - due date baby / 9.5lbs). Both were born at home with a midwife in attendance. Both pregnancies were a joy with no complications and the births were fast and beautiful (for the most part). Now that we're done having children I wanted to set out to help others who were unable to for whatever reason. I have met many people who have had infertility issues or wanted to be a single parent by choice and I've seen how heartbreaking it can be for them to have a dream of having children not be realized.
*Currently discussing a sibling journey with former IPs* My name is Lea and I'm 42. I just gave birth to a surrogate babe at a birth center earlier this year at 40w3d. It was a relatively quick labor and birth (a little over 7 hours from the first contraction to birth). Baby was born in water and came out en caul which was an amazing sight. Baby was 8lb4oz at birth. The IM was the first to hold and pull the baby out of the water. It was an uneventful pregnancy except for some early SCH bleeding. Right now I'm taking a year to heal. I want to do another journey but it would need to be under the right circumstances and with an IP/IF person/couple and an RE who is okay with my age. I would like to do another transfer early next year. My last match was an Indy journey with an escrow company and I'd like to go that route again to save a person/couple the money they would otherwise spend on an agency. I live in Northern Virginia (NOVA) just outside DC. I'm a Human Resources Director. I got an MBA a year after leaving the military and I've been employed by the same company for close to twenty years and have three employees who work under me who support me in every way. I love my work. I am currently covered by insurance where surrogacy is not covered but I can obtain medical coverage through my employer which does NOT have a surrogacy exclusion. I did this for the last journey and it worked well. I've been learning about surrogacy since my daughter was born. I did not initially understand how complex it would be and all that the journey would entail. Also, my husband had a lot of questions that needed to be answered before he felt comfortable supporting my passionate desire to become a surrogate.He would also prefer that I had another homebirth or at the very least, a birth center birth (unless there's a condition that would prevent it). I've learned much more since actually embarking on the surrogate journey and delivering the baby. The joy of seeing the IPs holding their baby at the end was indescribable. I'm so happy to have contributed to them becoming a family of three.
I'm very communicative and straight-forward and hoping to find the same qualities in a match. Here's what I'm looking for in an IP(s) match: -Interested in a Single Embryo Transfer (SET) only -Truly comfortable with either a birth center or homebirth with a midwife unless there are medical circumstances which prevent it (this is important to my husband as well) -Any race or sexual orientation; single, married, or partnered -IP(s) located in any geographical location -Honest (this is the foundation of any good relationship) -Desire for a friendship that extends past surrogacy -Terminate only for life threatening conditions or chromosomal abnormalities (I'm not willing to terminate a baby because of wanting a singleton instead of multiples) -Must use escrow account (non-negotiable) -Comfortable with chiropractic care -Desire to share in the birth experience -Willing to let nature take its course and allow me not to be induced unless Midwife/OB orders it for a legitimate medical reason